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Shes been cheating ... Is the baby mine?

We have been lovers for over a year now. She cheats on me with a strange man and I discover two of their sexual encounters. Without asking her, she willingly told me about their first sexual encounter. I forced her before she told me about their second sexual encounter. She continues to insist that the mystery man is not her lover and she does not love him. However, she cannot explain why she continued to go to him. I discovered that she had sex with me five days after she had sex with this mystery man. Then three weeks after sex with me, she said she is pregnant with my baby! She is 15 weeks pregnant now and I have been supporting her through and through. The mystery man disappeared!! The big question that still lingers in my mind is: "Is the baby mine"? A recent scan says the baby is a boy! The first day of her LMP was 15th Nov 2009. Her period ended on 21st Nov 2009. She was with this mystery man from 21st to 25th of Nov but she admitted only having sex with him on the 21st of Nov. She was with me and we had sex from 26th Nov until she left on 10th Dec 2009. I did not use a condom but I did not cum inside her (Though I know that is no guarantee). She said the mistry man did not come inside her but after all this betrayal, I find it hard to believe a word from her mouth. Do I still love her? To be honest, I simply care about her! Love has no bases here and after this betrayal; I think that will take some time! To be fair, there is a chance that the baby might be mine and that’s another real reason I am sticking with her but what do you say? IS THE BABY MINE?

Public Comments

1. get rid of her.
2. I don't know.
3. DNA is the best way to go you wouldn't want to assume because you know what they say about assumers.
4. I don't know, and probably she can't be sure either. You just have to wait and get a DNA test once it's born. You can test DNA in-utero, but it can cause nasty complications for the baby, so I don't think you want that. There isn't much you can do now, there is an excellent chance this is your baby so I would continue to support her and the baby just in case. You can withdraw that support if you find out otherwise, after the birth and the test. I'm sorry, but you will live with this doubt for a while longer. Good luck.
5. get a DNA test. Problem with that is, you will have to wait to the baby is born
6. It's quite possible that it's the mystery mans baby but he bailed so she's saying it's yours. The only way to know for sure is to get a DNA test.
7. I am sympathetic to your plight especially now that a baby might be involved. I see three issues here that you have to deal with. Let us begin with the one you asked and which is the most important. 1) Based on the dates you provided, there is a 50-50 % chance that the baby is yours. According to the information ,you slept with her on the 26th and her period ended on the 21st. Though close ,you could be the father.Unless the information you have is not accurate or she lied to you about the mystery guy and when she slept with him or if she slept with other guys or was already pregnant when you slept with her on the 26th,you could be the father. Only a paternity test known also as a DNA test could definitely and difinitively answer the question of who her father is after she is born. 2)That raises the question of whether you should continue to care for her during her pregnancy. This is a dicey one.If you refuse her help and the baby turns out to be yours,then the guilt and ramifications might be too much for you to deal with .On the other hand if you take care of her and the baby turns out not to be yours then you might feel like a chum. The only possible alternative ( and I am not sure if you would like that) is to have a legally binding agreement. First you would ask her if she is positive that the baby is yours and not someone else including any other guy you might not know about.If she says yes,then you would draw up an agreement to be notarized which would say something like" if DNA paternity tests confirm that the baby is yours ,she would owe you nothing. However,if the tests show that she lied and the baby is another man's baby,then she would have to repay you every penny you spent caring for her;she can collect from the actual father if she so desires".During her pregnancy you guys would keep a running tab of the expenses and the receipts would be signed by the two of you so there would be no future arguments about them. 3) This is the future state of any relationship .You did not say your current feelings for her(which is different from your justifiable anger and sense of betrayal) but it is tied in to number 1 and 2 above.You have to resolve that point whether you would be willing to forgive her and stay in the relatioship if that proves feasible.If it is, then you might want to reconsider all of what I have said. I wish you all the best.
8. Get a DNA done after the baby is born. She is slut leave her alone.
9. Hmm.....You're probably gonna have to wait until the baby is born to DNA test it... but personal attachments created throughout the pregnancy could affect your decision IF it isn't yours. Do you love the mother? Can you continue to live with her? Can you trust her? Would you be happy? Answer no to any of these, and you're going to need to do some serious thinking. And remember, the baby is an innocent factor in all this; don't let your possible angry and resentment with your lover settle within this unborn baby.