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His last name for baby or mine?

Here is the story: Should I give my baby the father's last name or mine? I am 30 weeks pregnant, or 7.5 months. The father and i are engaged. We have had problems, and some things in our relationship I prefer not to delve into--don't want to look. We are living together. But the fact is we are not married. I love this man, but I'm not sure i trust him with my and my baby's financial future. Should I give baby my last name, just in case, or his last name, also just in case, or both (although it's not very lyrical). One way or another, i can see myself spending time answering questions about why my name and baby's name aren't the same.

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You'd be surprised how few questions there really are too this, it's more commonplace now when the parents aren't together than when they are. In any event, my son carries both my last name and his father's, I'm 31 weeks pregnant myself now and my daughter will carry both names as well. I've never married for my own personal reasons, but I don't see that as a reason that my children shouldn't carry on their father's name, and mine too for that matter. ;) Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy! :)
That something you really need to answer yourself. You can always have the baby's name be yours and he can at any time sign the certificate and have name changed ( I believe) BUT again that is a choice you need to make not a bunch of strangers.
If you know the baby is his and he plans to have his name on the birth certificate i would give the baby his last name.
i thin his because you are engaged to be married nd may have his name soon. even if you don't marry him the child will always be hiss too not just yours. Im not married ( soon to be) but i am naming our son with his father's last name. 33 weeks 2 days pregnant
He is the father, give the baby his last name. It is not fair to the baby to deny him his father's name. Sorry but this guy was good enough to lay down with and make a baby but now not good enough for the baby to have his last name? This seems odd to me. Even if you don't end up together this is still his child.
Legally the baby will have your name and yes you will need to explain that someday. If you marry one moment before giving birth he will be the baby's legal father. Your choice.
use ur last name ui dont want to alter youir childs life with a man, you might not trust.
Been there done that. My fiance and I just had our first baby and like you said, somethings in the relationship you just don't want to talk about and bring up. My suggestion and opinon...if you and your fiance are willing to work on things, and try and make it work for the baby, then you should give the child his last name. Not only that, but even if you and him don't work out, but you give the child his last name, at least the child knows that his/her father cares and he can always be reached if needed. I thought about this for a long time when I was pregnant, and once you have the baby, your fiance and your relationship status may change. Things could become a lot better between the two of you. I know it did for my fiance and I. It was like the baby matured us and made us realize what we have. I know that you and your fiance love each other dearly, or else you wouldn't be pregnant. And if he is staying with you thru all of the things you have endure together, and is willing to make it work for the both of you and the baby, then that means something. He is trying and it's not too much to ask for the baby to have his last name. There can be pros and cons to the situation either way you look at it. And the decision is completely up to you. You have to think about whether or not you think you and your fiance will be together in the future, if you love each other, and if you do get married and you don't give your child his name, if the child will grow up wondering why? Then it may be too late to change it unless you're willing to pay the money to get it done.
I would give it his last name, because if you and him do split one day you will marry and then you will still have 2 different last names.Good luck
If he is listed on the birth certificate as the babys father he will need to sign a paternaty form at the hospital because you are not married. you can legally name your child whatever you want thats your choice, but make sure he fills out the proper paperwork at the hospital to make things easier on you should you two split up and you seek child support. good luck and congrats.
His last name. Maybe, if you need him to pay support, he'll be more willing.
Give that baby your last name. If you and the baby's father ever do get married, it's very easy to do a name change. If you give the baby the father's last name and regret it later, the father has to sign off on making a name change. My daughter made this mistake and she deeply regrets it now. The chances of getting the father's signoff are very low.
His last name
Give the baby your name!! You are the one growing and birthing this child, you decide for sure its name and its last name. If you do end up marrying the father, you can change the baby's name later, if you are so inclined. But if you don't....it will be much easier for you with schools, medical records, etc.
When I had my first child I wasn't married and the people around me convinced me to give the baby my last name. I AM SO THANKFUL I LISTENED! Her father turned out to be a jerk and I would be very regretful if I had given her his last name. So, my advice to any unmarried woman would be to give the baby your last name. You can always change it later. Good luck!! I am also 30 weeks preggo :)
Being a love child with both my parents last names.......... I DO NOT RECOMMEND IT!! I'm 28 yrs old now and to be honest I use my mothers last name more than my fathers. I cant stand writing both or saying both or explaining why I have such a long name. In you might be getting married to this guy I think you should give the child his last name. When my son was born I gave him his fathers last name even though we are not together.
Your name.
Ok, no one else has said this but I'm in a similair situation and I have decided to give my child his fathers last name because it sounds better. Both of our names are hard to pronounce. My last name is Slovakian but sounds and looks like it is an Italian or Spanish name, I get tons of questions about my last name. So just go with the one thats easier to spell and pronounce and has a better ring to it with the first and middle name you've picked out.
I made the mistake of giving my daughter her father's last name and it has caused nothing but heartache. You can always change the last name later. Please. Especially if you guys have had problems already. He won't change. You think he would, for his child, but he won't. I'm guessing that he really wants you to give the baby his last name, am I right? I would really, really, think about this.
Well, something to consider- if/when you get married to this man, are YOU planning to take his name or keep yours? I see nothing wrong with the baby taking your name, or with giving him your fiance's name. There are so many different varieties of families out there now that I bet people won't ask as much as you think... Good luck with your decision!